My ex-boyfriend and I have a five-year-old daughter and are in the middle of a custody case. I was dropping off my daughter at school this morning and ended up in a conversation with the ex-husband of my ex’s new wife, now my daughter’s stepmother. He informed me that he hopes I win custody because his ex-wife is sick and has been diagnosed with bi-polar 1 disorder (also known as manic depression) and refuses to take her medication.
He also informed me that their daughter (the stepsister of the same age) told him a story the other day. She said that her mommy snapped on my daughter for not calling her mommy. She yelled and screamed at her that she is not to call her by her name but MUST call her mommy. The wife has also expressed to me in the past that she has a hard time with my daughter.
I spoke to a nurse-friend who has also been diagnosed with bi-polar 1 disorder and asked if my daughter could be in danger if the stepmother is not on proper medication. Her answer alarmed me greatly. She said yes that bi-polar 1 people can snap and go into psychosis and be dangerous. She felt I should call CPS immediately.
My ex has hired an attorney in our case. I cannot afford an attorney but have been advised that will not make the difference. We have shared custody for these five years, but now I feel my daughter needs to be with me more and the stepmother less because when my daughter is supposed to be with her father, she is actually with this women.
What should I do?
Worried Sick in Syracuse
Hi Worried Sick:
There’s a lot of stuff here but I want you to do me a favor; as difficult as this may be, you are going to need to look at what’s really going on versus what you’re hearing. And then from the stuff you’re hearing, you’re going to need to decide who’s pushing an agenda and who’s telling the truth. Then and only then can you, in my opinion, make a sound and solid decision. Now before you tune me out, HEAR me out….