I have a touchy subject and I hope you can help. For as long as I have known her, my best friend, Holly, has been complaining about the size and shape of her nose. So a while back, for her 40th birthday, she treated herself to a nose job. The surgery went well, her relief was palpable and I think it gave her self-esteem a little boost. All sounds good, right?
Well, here’s the problem. Now she wants more. Holly had an eye job, which turned out okay (but not great). Now her latest obsession is with wrinkles so she’s been going to the dermatologist for Botox and fillers. She’s always looking at actresses on TV and comparing herself to them. Now, instead of a woman, gracefully transitioning into middle age, Holly looks like a circus clown!
I’m really not sure what to do. Should I tell her to back away from the needle? Should I worry that she’s going through some sort of mid-life crisis? I’m confused as to how to help since I would never go this route.
Paralyzed in Paramus
Oh, well this is a pickle but you’ve come to the right place. Full disclosure (and I’ve said this and it’s in print so many places it’s not really a secret) I have had plastic surgery. I also use Botox a couple times a year. I am a fan of both of those things… IN SMALL DOSES! And this is exactly where I think people mess up a good thing. When the swelling goes down, they look in the mirror, refreshed and youthful and think, “DAMN I gotta get more of this!” Um. No. The question is should we step in for those seduced my the siren song of plastic surgery? In a word? No.