My daughter died and I am raising my granddaughter. Her boyfriend keeps pressuring her to have sex, but he is also older than her; he turns fifteen in August, while Kat is hardly thirteen. She did not mean to tell me, I overheard her, and has asked me not to talk to him. I do not want to disregard her wishes, but I’m not sure if that is the right thing to do. Any advice?
Signed: Worried in Wisconsin
Yes, I have a few thoughts on this as well as some advice; I pray you will hear me out on both. Before I launch into this I have to say God Bless you for taking on the responsibility of raising your granddaughter. According to statistics you’re part of a growing trend; nearly 5 million grandparents are currently raising grandchildren in this country. I cannot imagine how difficult that must be, physically, mentally and emotionally.
When I think about grandparents raising grandchildren, discipline is one of the things I imagine must be among the more difficult challenges; peer pressure and what they see in the media must make that even tougher. But just because it’s hard, doesn’t mean it’s not worth doing. Or necessary. So here’s what I would do if I were you.