Ask Rene: My Son Is Being Bullied! (VIDEO)

Dear Rene:

I have a situation that I haven’t seen you address here yet. It’s bullying. I am the mother of a special-needs, high school boy. Todd is a really sweet kid with not a mean bone in his body. It’s the fact that he is so gentle that really burns me up about this.

For several years now, there is one boy in his grade, Tyson, who delights in teasing him. He’s really very cruel about it too.

I have spoken to the school about it and they promise they are going to address it but I’m still waiting.

My question is what should I do? Tyson’s mother knows what’s going on but he’s a bit of a problem child to she’s adopted a hands off approach.

Should I call her? I don’t want to make it worse for Todd by calling Tyson’s mother but this is breaking my heart.

Mad momma in Maryland

 

Hi Mad Momma:

Well that just sucks and I’m sorry you and your son are having to go through this. But you need to know this is a situation that will not get better on it’s own, so you need to take action. So take a look at the following video; it’s what I would do if I were in your shoes.

 

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Rene Syler is a wife, mother, breast cancer advocate and television personality whose burning desire to tell the truth about modern motherhood led her to create GoodEnoughMother.com . When not spending time with her family or burning something for dinner, Rene travels the country as host of Sweet Retreats on The Live Well Network and Exhale on Aspire.

3 Comments

  1. Lynda

    April 26, 2012 at 6:20 am

    If you contact the school again and they still aren’t listening and reacting properly, I have found they do listen and act when they get a letter from an attorney. Most schools and districts have written policies about how they are supposed to handle these situations. A polite but firm letter on an attorney’s letterhead setting forth the facts, your efforts to get results, the school’s failure to respond, their own policies and what specifically you expect to be one is very effective. Try on your own first the ways that GEM suggested and document your efforts. Then escalate it and let the school know that you will so whatever it takes to get your son the education he deserves.

  2. Carrell

    April 26, 2012 at 8:29 pm

    Hi, Rene, your take on the bullying, was really on point. I too was being bully in my junior high and high school years, now that I’m adult, and heard so much about bullying made me realize that this is what was happening too me as well. Something really needs to be done about this. I no, when we here of this type of behavior, it really makes us want to ARM our children’s with some type of defense, really that’s not a bad ideal. This mother stated that her child has a special need, which really got my blood boiling, for this to be happening., yes his mother need to stay on top of this issue.

  3. Tiffany T

    May 2, 2012 at 1:09 am

    I like the self-defense idea. Even if his special needs prevent him from mastering any sort of physical defense, at the very least it could arm him with more self-confidence, which can go a long way when dealing with bullies.

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