Oh my look who’s in the Life Lessons Hot Seat today! Does she look familiar? I wanted to update my own Life Lessons because this year has been one of tremendous growth for GEM, the site and the woman behind it (you can go here to see my answers from more than a year ago). As we know, real growth can be gut-wrenching and there were parts of 2011 that were utterly tortuous. But it was also the year I truly stopped waiting for the storm to pass and instead, began dancing in the rain. And you know what? It was fun! More now from the Head GEM and remember, if you want to take part in our Life Lessons Exercise, drop us a line; we’ll get the questions right out to you!
Yes. Yes, yes, yes! To be able to say that, my friends, has been a long time coming. It doesn’t mean I don’t still wish for, hope for, want, but it does mean there is a peace in my soul.
I would tell my gangly, goofy 16-year-old self that life goes by fast. At 16, don’t wish you were 21, then at 21 wish your were 25 and at 25 wish you were 32 and so one. You’ll be walking across the stage in cap and gown one minute then watching your own babies do it the next. Look up. Pay attention. Live in the moment.
Okay. I know I asked each of these responses to be just 2-3 sentences but there is no earthly way possible I can do that in this category.
*Stay on your own mat: This came from my friend Debbie Mitchell who got it from her yoga teacher. Other translations are, “Stay in your lane” Run your own race” “Do your own thing”.
*Harness your positive energy: This came from GEM columnist Will Jones aka, Good Enough Guy. For me, that meant putting blinders on to the negative noise that sometimes comes with life and I paid FAR too much attention to. I am learning to control what I can and let the rest go.
*Success takes talent AND drive: This came from my new friend Holly Pavlika. Anyone can do what I am doing with GEM and reinvention, but not everyone is, even those with a perfect platform. Why? Because not everyone has the drive to get it done. I do.
*It’s called show BUSINESS not show FRIENDS: Wooo-wee! This came from Buff and perhaps was the year’s biggest lesson. I’m TV talent but this was the year I had to think like a businessperson. Contracts and agreements need to be clear, in writing and signed off by an attorney. People change, circumstances change and I am not a lawyer.
*No one will believe in you as much as you believe in yourself: This one is from me. I came up with the concept for Good Enough Mother in 2005. I did! The book followed, as did the brand, which becomes clearer every single day. GEM was borne of my desire to help women be okay with the jobs they were doing as wives and mothers. Others will see it (and me), as a way to make money but to me, Good Enough Mother will always be much more.
In the next 12 months, I want to become truly fearless. I’ve done that more and more over the last several months but there’s still a tiny part of me, remnants from my days in TV news (where you live and die by the Q score) that is too worried about pissing off people who are in positions to hire me.
Copious amounts of cheap wine. Kidding. Not really. Seriously though, a glass of wine at the end of the day is one of the things that makes me happy.
Um, see above.
I can’t think of a single one since they’ve all been so big! LOL. Not really. I don’t really regret any of the things I’ve done or been through because they have all led me to this very place, the place I am supposed to be. I believe in every experience you need to be able to say you learned from it. Let’s just say I learned a LOT this year.
Buff and I were talking about this the other day. Kids learn by watching and Casey and Cole are seeing what hard work looks like up close. This is not the sterilized, Hollywood version of this story. This is real life and it’s real hard. They are learning what sort of effort it takes to become a success and will be able to see what reward looks like too. Soon.
Organization. I’m terrible at it. I am getting better and using technology to help me but it’s still the beast I have yet to tame. I am smart enough to surround myself with people who are good at that.
I would have to say I am most proud of how I have handled the challenges of the last several years. Years ago I might have said ascending to the national stage as part of the anchor team on that morning show so many years ago. That job was tough, no question, but it doesn’t hold a candle to what I’ve done the last several years. Job loss, mastectomy, losing my hair, each one of those things could have derailed me but they didn’t. I did the only thing I knew how to do, which was to put one foot in front of the other. The journey is long, the path not always clear, but if I keep walking, I’ll eventually get there.
Hmm, there have been a lot of happy moments in my life but to date, the happiest of them would be when I married Buff and had those two hell-raisers. Er, children.
In no particular order: Snarky, Irreverent, Temperamental, Loyal, Loving, Smart, Savvy, Stubborn, Impatient, Fun-loving.
This is typically the place where the writer’s bio goes, instead I’m going to leave you with this. I cannot express to you how truly humbled and grateful I am to each of you. Thank you for coming to GEM everyday, for taking time out of your busy lives to read and comment on the pieces here. I’ve always said this parenting thing is tough; there are no hard and fast rules and sometimes the answers aren’t so easy to see. But I love the collaborative effort here and together we’ll get through it. In the meantime, I’m keeping my head up and my face toward the sun; because even in the muck and mire, the world is a beautiful place. 2012 is gonna be awesome!
HUGS from the Head GEM!