Oh boy. Ohboyohboyohboyohboyohboyohboy.. Today’s video is not so much Wishful Thinking (well not for me anyway) as much as it’s just more about picking your brain. If you and your spouse read Good Enough Mother, now would be a good time not to do it together. And if you comment, use an assumed name. You can thank me later.
So sit back and spend a couple of minutes watching, then leave your comment, real name or alias will do.
Let her rip!
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I feel guilty if I do something extremely minor wrong & try to hide it from my wife. I can’t imagine the guilt I would feel if I were to have an affair, even if I were got 100% assurance that my wife would never find out. It would eat away at me knowing how I betrayed her trust.
One other point: I’m a bad liar. Horrible. I tell the truth way too much. (Like that time I was buying a new car and let it slip that the transmission might be going on my trade-in.) I can manage to keep a gift a surprise, but that’s about it. If I had a secret like “I had an affair”, it would be a constant struggle until I gave in and told her. So even a 100% guarantee that no one else would tell her wouldn’t be a guarantee that she wouldn’t find out from me.
If imperfection is the new black then I’m hot!
I could not ever do it because it goes against the things I base my identity on. Honesty and truthfulness.
To have and maintain an affair would be like looking your spouse in the eye and lying to them. If I have to lie to you then we don’t love each other and should not be together.
I just have to much wrapped up in my ego to allow that to take place. Pride, honor, valor, stubbornness, fear, and then some.
… and she’d n ever find out, huh? Hmmmmm. And you’re sure she’d never know?
LOL. Joking.
As my dad used to say, “Throwing away a million dollar family for $20 worth of ^$&%! is bad math any way you look at it.
It took a loooong time to build what I have. I’m not letting something as silly as cheap sex destroy it.
No. Not ever. Not in a million years. No way. Not even if he returned the favor … which mine did many times. The grass is not always greener on the other side. My guilty conscience couldn’t function, even in retaliation! They always find out anyway but only when they’re ready to see it. I did eventually and I just decided to end the marriage. I didn’t drag it out. I just said ‘I am done.’
I never, ever want to be with someone who thinks that’s acceptable behavior in a marriage or a relationship. I never want to be with someone who thinks of me as someone he is staying with until something better comes along. I deserved more than that. Oh, but wait … nothing will ever be better because the cheater will NEVER be satisfied. They will never stop this behavior either because they feel they are somehow entitled to behave this way. Does that answer your question? Just my two cents though!
I would say no. Its not honest to be in a relationship where there is an affair behind the significant other’s back. The damage may be worser once the affair is discovered and the only ones hurt would be the person you’re married to, along with family and friends.
Well, I have been there and gotten the tshirt and it cost more than it was worth…I was young and dumb and full of it all. It only made things worse and everyone around me got hurt and didn’t solve a thing.
Jenn the only thing I disagree with in your post is people do grow and they do change if they want to. I learned my lesson and have never wanted history to repeat itself….it isn’t all black and white us humans are complicated beings and it doesn’t ever make it right but there are many reasons people cheat some are so downright selfish and yet some people get in over their heads so to speak.
p.s. Buff you should talk behind the lense of the camera!!! and man you can tell Olivia, the gem dog is content with her life….she didn’t move a muscle during that segment.
Irene, I actually have to agree with you … people do change; not everything is so black and white. I have heard of women having had affairs because it was their ticket out of a bad marriage; the only way to survive per se. I guess every situation is different. I think there’s also a lot to be said about whether or not the person who cheated feels remorse or not. I still have to say that I wouldn’t do it because I know what it feels like to be on the receiving end more than once … my ex and I weren’t meant to be together I think for the long haul and I’m glad we are divorced now.
ok… rene, i was messing w/u on twitter. u know ur my secret crush(well, not so secret now. lol)
people have been giving some pretty straight forward black and white answers. and that’s cool…. buuuut, if life were that simple, life would be perfect. sh!t happens. as life happens and people change, they do things that they NEVER thought they would do. b4 i get hammered with “BUT, i’m different and my morals wouldn’t allow me to do such a thing”, let me say this…. if we could predict the person that we’re gonna be 10 years from now, we would be God! we can say what wish to do or how we think we would react. but, in truth, we won’t know until we cross that bridge.
all of that being said, i’d have to agree with you rene… but w/a twist. i can only promise you what i’m gonna do today. and when tomorrow becomes today, i’ll cross that bridge again…
woman – i loved your closet but so glad to see you more out and about with the rest of the family, even the 4 legged ones!!!! the thing about this question is that you’d never know what you’d do until you’d be in the situation…yes, you ‘d have to live with it and most of us wouldn’t be able to do that…we’d probably crack so there you go…even if it could stay a secret, it probably wouldn’t! now that’s just my opinion for what it’s worth…