Whew! It’s been a bit of a whirlwind weekend for Good Enough Mother; actually the last few months have been, with more and more people are asking the Head GEM to come speak to their groups (Click here if you’d like me to come talk to your organization. Yes, I know. Shameless plug). Anyway, I’m just back from the third annual Nappiology, a natural hair gathering held in Dallas-Fort Worth, a place near and dear to my heart. It was organized by the dynamo that is De Phillips Johnson, one of my hair mentors, who helped me early on in the transition from relaxed to natural.
Anyway, I tell you this to say that even though I’m 2½ years into my natural journey, I still learn new things and this weekend was like a crash course. So here they are, 5 MORE things I learned and love about my natural hair.
*HAIR RULES: The product and the man behind it. Those of you familiar to the site know how I feel about Hair Rules but I had a chance to hang out with the creator, Anthony Dickey. Thank GOD for his vision to help those with multi-textured hair understand and unlock it’s beauty.
*ITS VERSATILITY: Now, I’ve known Dickey a little while but this was the first time he’s done my hair. Man, was I in for a treat and when I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. My first thought was, “Who is THAT with all that hair?” My hair hasn’t been this healthy and strong and LONG in probably 30 years!
*THE COMMUNITY OF WHICH WE ARE A PART: And when I say we, I mean my follicles and me. It was so good for my heart and head to be in that hall with all of those women with the same goal; to have happy, healthy hair. They were just so BEAUTIFUL, underscoring once again that beauty come in all shapes, sizes and hair textures.
*THE EXAMPLE I AM SETTING FOR MY DAUGHTER: Truth be told, my heart was a little heavy when I went to Nappiology. You see, a few days prior, my hair idol, inspiration and teenage daughter, Casey, asked me how I would feel if she got a relaxer. I tried not to scream but my heart nearly broke in two, especially in light of what I’ve been through with my own hair. When I got back home I asked her about it again and she said words that made me breathe a sigh of relief. “Mom, don’t worry about it. I was just having a bad hair day.” Then she promised to go with me next year. Whew.
*MY HAIR IS THE EXTERNAL MANIFESTATION OF MY INTERNAL SELF: Quick story: I was having lunch on my layover at the Detroit airport when a man walked by me. He didn’t look especially friendly; he had kind of a craggy, worn look about him and wore an uninviting scowl. But as he walked by, his face lit up and he drawled “You have the coolest hair.” With my mouth full of salad I mumbled, “Oh thank you.” Then I had to look away. Why? Because I started to tear up (I know, I know). For the first time in many, MANY years, I love my hair. Scratch that; am IN LOVE with my hair. I love its coils and kinks, how unruly it is; I even love it when it’s fuzzy instead of perfectly coiffed curls. It has a mind of its own, rebels against gravity and nature, just like me.
Hair is a big, damn deal to women and I am so happy to have made peace with my locks, even at this late stage in my life. What about you? Is your hair a physical manifestation of your inner self? Are you happy with it and its representation of you or is it time for change?
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