DINA LOHAN: D FOR DELUSIONAL

Good Enough Mother has only one word for what she witnessed this morning on The Today Show. WOW.

Host Matt Lauer interviewed actress Lindsay Lohan’s mother, Dina. The interview was supposed to be about Lindsay and her state of mind following her jail sentence and court appointed rehab for probation violation. What it turned out to be was one huge blame fest.

Matt started with an easy, straightforward question about Lindsay and how she had fared in jail. Dina paused and then deliberately sidestepped the question, instead moving into full on blame mode. “Well, actually the judge is being recused…. I think she went overboard and played serious hardball with Lindsay…”

From there on, Dina talked about Lindsay being in jail for “a couple of classes she missed at the time, that she made up, but she was working…” (actually, though reports vary, Lindsay allegedly missed between 7 and 9 classes). She accused Matt Lauer of reading tabloid websites and when Matt asked Dina if Lindsay had this coming, she responded by saying that was all propaganda.

When he mentioned this was her fourth time in rehab, Dina objected, saying this was only Lindsay’s 2nd time.  In part two of their interview, Matt came back with his notes and not only had the numbers of times she had gone to rehab (four) but the names of the facilities as well. And on and on and on it went.

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I watched these videos three times and each time I was more and more astounded by how out of touch Dina Lohan seemed in regard to her kid and her situation.

Yes, Lindsay lives the life of a young starlet and yes she’s constantly followed by cameras (though lately not because she’s a star but due to her troubles). Forget about the trouble with the law, did Dina see any of the photos of her kid stumbling into the bushes or just in general looking completely out of it? As a mother how can you stand by and say “She’s an adult now and I have to let her live her life?” Matt asked her why she would not want Lindsay to stay in rehab longer if it meant she would get well once and for all – and if she worried that Lindsay might die at a young age. Dina was mortified. But, Dina, that is the question all of us, who watch from afar, wonder as well.

Now I REALLY feel sorry for Lindsay Lohan.  A few weeks back I wrote a piece about her not accepting responsibility for her actions. Well it’s clear to me why.  Dina doesn’t live in the same world that the rest of us do and clearly she has passed that sense of superiority on to her daughter.

Isn’t this our job as parents? To equip our kids with the tools they need to get through life?  To give them a firm foundation and to tell them the truth no matter how painful or what the hangers-on say? To make sure they know that just because they are special to us does not mean they get to circumvent the rules?

I wish the best for Lindsay Lohan but she needs a good does of reality. Maybe jail and rehab will do that for her because it definitely is not going to come from either of her parents. And that’s the real tragedy in this whole sorry situation.

Rene Syler is a wife, mother, breast cancer advocate and television personality whose burning desire to tell the truth about modern motherhood led her to create GoodEnoughMother.com . When not spending time with her family or burning something for dinner, Rene travels the country as host of Sweet Retreats on The Live Well Network and Exhale on Aspire.

6 Comments

  1. Irene

    August 13, 2010 at 9:52 pm

    Whew..I was about to get upset. I saw Joy Behar Show tonight and thought I missed you hosting the show. Whew…

    This whole Lindsay Lohen thing is just remarkably sad. I think it is safe to say, “Look at the trail the parents left and you will see part of the problem” Not that at some point our children are responsible for their own actions.

    The sideshow of the 2 Lohan parents makes it obvious that Lindsay needs help…and not from them. She is just too young to give up on…but her parents/enablers need to let this daughter work through these problems privately & stop feedin the media.

    I don’t really understand how anyone would want to feed their own kid to the sharks like the Lohan parents. Sad commentary about our country is that there are alot of Lohan parent-protypes out there.

  2. Mike W.

    August 14, 2010 at 2:08 am

    I have a very low tolerance level for interviews in which the person being interviewed does not answer the questions asked. So, I tuned out after Matt’s second attempt to get Dina to answer his question about how Lindsay described her experience in jail.
    Your headline is right on the money– DELUSIONAL!

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  4. america

    August 14, 2010 at 7:55 am

    Dina is serioulsy CONFUSED… she’s is NOT SEEING HER CHILD…as a parent you are supposed to attempt to STOP your children from doing STUPID !@#$%^ and Dina isnt…she’s ignoring the sistuation…

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