Good Enough Mother has only one word for what she witnessed this morning on The Today Show. WOW.
Host Matt Lauer interviewed actress Lindsay Lohan’s mother, Dina. The interview was supposed to be about Lindsay and her state of mind following her jail sentence and court appointed rehab for probation violation. What it turned out to be was one huge blame fest.
Matt started with an easy, straightforward question about Lindsay and how she had fared in jail. Dina paused and then deliberately sidestepped the question, instead moving into full on blame mode. “Well, actually the judge is being recused…. I think she went overboard and played serious hardball with Lindsay…”
From there on, Dina talked about Lindsay being in jail for “a couple of classes she missed at the time, that she made up, but she was working…” (actually, though reports vary, Lindsay allegedly missed between 7 and 9 classes). She accused Matt Lauer of reading tabloid websites and when Matt asked Dina if Lindsay had this coming, she responded by saying that was all propaganda.
When he mentioned this was her fourth time in rehab, Dina objected, saying this was only Lindsay’s 2nd time. In part two of their interview, Matt came back with his notes and not only had the numbers of times she had gone to rehab (four) but the names of the facilities as well. And on and on and on it went.
I watched these videos three times and each time I was more and more astounded by how out of touch Dina Lohan seemed in regard to her kid and her situation.
Yes, Lindsay lives the life of a young starlet and yes she’s constantly followed by cameras (though lately not because she’s a star but due to her troubles). Forget about the trouble with the law, did Dina see any of the photos of her kid stumbling into the bushes or just in general looking completely out of it? As a mother how can you stand by and say “She’s an adult now and I have to let her live her life?” Matt asked her why she would not want Lindsay to stay in rehab longer if it meant she would get well once and for all – and if she worried that Lindsay might die at a young age. Dina was mortified. But, Dina, that is the question all of us, who watch from afar, wonder as well.
Now I REALLY feel sorry for Lindsay Lohan. A few weeks back I wrote a piece about her not accepting responsibility for her actions. Well it’s clear to me why. Dina doesn’t live in the same world that the rest of us do and clearly she has passed that sense of superiority on to her daughter.
Isn’t this our job as parents? To equip our kids with the tools they need to get through life? To give them a firm foundation and to tell them the truth no matter how painful or what the hangers-on say? To make sure they know that just because they are special to us does not mean they get to circumvent the rules?
I wish the best for Lindsay Lohan but she needs a good does of reality. Maybe jail and rehab will do that for her because it definitely is not going to come from either of her parents. And that’s the real tragedy in this whole sorry situation.